On High Value First Impressions

Hey guys,

Here's an article that LSi readers may well recognise. It appeared in its own edition, sent out just before the Winter 2008 SuperConference. It covers some of my experiences learning Social Circle Mastery (guys, take this seminar!) from Mr.M during Project Rockstar...as well as some really awesome practical tips. Here it is shared here for your enjoyment

Keys

On High Value First Impressions


- Keychain


'Drop everything. Come learn from the best and BE the best.'

When I got the call from Mr. M announcing that I was 'in' and destined to become a member of Project Rockstar... I was ecstatic. I couldn't believe that I was chosen. I was excited about all of the amazing things we were going to learn, all the amazing instructors we would meet, and all the beautiful women we'd be trained to attract! And so I dropped everything, disappeared off the radar for two months and took my first step into a new world...

During gruelling theory sessions, lasting up to eight hours in length, Mr. M schooled us in the closely guarded principles of Social Circle Mastery, a system that teaches men how to build a large, high-value social circle filled with beautiful women. It's about complete social mastery - social dynamics as applied to both men and women... and how to ascend to the very top of the social ladder. At the highest levels, it's like having Jedi powers.

Mr. M spoke a lot about how powerful social dynamics were when applied to situations outside of seduction. He stated that once you have mastered the realm of seducing hot women, you begin to realize that what you have learned has far greater and more important implications for success in the rest of your life.

For example, one of the key lessons of Social Circle Mastery is the power of the 'first impression' and more importantly, how to properly deliver one when trying to build rapport with a high value individual (this could be a celebrity, a millionaire, or generally a person with high social status in any given situation). When two high value individuals first meet, there typically is a subtle exchange of verbal and non-verbal cues that allow each party to recognise the other's social status. Malcolm Gladwell calls this 'thin slicing' in the award winning book 'Blink,' which Mr. M recommended to us. These go unnoticed by the vast majority of people, but to those with a high degree of social intelligence, 'the 10s of life,' these cues are as clear as day.
So how do you meet a high value person and develop the kind of mutual respect that is the foundation for a healthy long term friendship?

In this article I'll share some insights into this very topic, as taught to us in those closed-door sessions by Mr. M (note that the technology was devised by both Mr. M and Braddock - Braddock is the other half of the mad genius pair that came up with Social Circle Mastery).

Establish Respect

The first thing to do in an interaction is to establish a solid platform of mutual respect. In this phase, it is crucial to avoid a negative 'thin slice.'

Upon making first impressions, there are usually two big mistakes that people make.
1. Trying to demonstrate higher value immediately - or 'trying too hard.'


Don't show all of your value up front. If you immediately start trying to impress the other person by talking about all the cool things in your life, you're playing a risky game. It is this kind of rapport seeking, try-hard behavior that distinguishes the 'not quite there' crowd to the top 10%. Consider this. The up-and-coming bank investor can't wait to tell you about all the money he is responsible for and all the money he makes. But the owner of the bank, if he mentions what he does for a living at all, is just 'in finance' when asked what he does. He doesn't feel the need to parade his goods for all to see.

2. Don't defer to the other person's value.

Most people make too much of a big deal out of recognising the 'main value proposition' of the other person. The main value proposition is exactly that - the single most valuable aspect about the person. So, for example, for Justin Timberlake, it would be his music or fame. For a millionaire, it would be his business.

The key, as taught to us by Mr. M, is to recognise their 'major value proposition' on a 'throw and go' basis. So for example, to a music celebrity, simply saying, 'Hey man, I like your music' is sufficient. People typically meet celebrities and 'emotionally overreach' (a topic covered in Mr. M and Braddock's new Inner Game Seminar). For example, they get hugely emotional and gush about how much they love that actor's movies, or how they listen to this music star's album every day. This tactic may well get a smile, a handshake or even a couple of seconds of appreciative dialogue with that person, but it is very unlikely to result in mutual respect or much, if any, desire for further contact. The key to building MUTUAL respect is then to qualify and relate to that person on topics outside of their main value proposition... and to find ways in which you can add value.

To round off, let me share a fantastic quick tip that you can put to work immediately. If a person is of significantly higher value than you, while it is crucially important to respect them, it is also important to neutralize their value by not putting too much emphasis on it. In fact, according to Mr. M and Braddock, you can take the concept of neutralizing another person's value a step further. The concept of neutralizing a person's value is similar in some ways to teasing a woman you just met. When you approach a beautiful woman in a coffee shop or in a bar, you shouldn't focus your conversation on her physical beauty. [If you are doing this, stop reading now, go to the Magic Bullets page, and download the free chapters. You need to be familiar with it so you can access the advanced stuff we're all moving into.] To do so would focus on her value so much that she'd feel like you put her on a pedestal and that you were not of equal or higher value (unless you were using a properly executed direct approach).

With high value people - men or women - focus away from the main source of value. This will help you build rapport. If you subtly encourage people to qualify themselves to you on other topics, you tacitly increase your own value in their eyes. This is because people generally don't encourage others to qualify themselves... unless you are a high-value person yourself! By getting a person to qualify to you, even subtly, it equalizes value on a certain level.

The application of advanced qualification to social situations as expounded in Social Circle Mastery is obviously far more complex than what I have covered above - this is just one basic implication. And to sum up, here's the big take-away point to remember:

The next time you meet a high-value individual, whether it's in the club or in the boardroom, focus on making an effective first impression with these elements. To internalize these behaviors takes practice and a degree of inner game confidence but it's worth it. To be able to communicate on the same level with that top 10% and develop a relationship with them to build your amazing social circle is a skill that trickles down to every area of your life -not just to meeting and attracting beautiful women (although it applies very much to this as well)!

Enjoy,

Keys