Keys gives Back

Hey guys, Keychain here.

Basically, I'm opening up some time for some free one-on-ones for guys in London. Game/life-related issues covered. I'd love to give something back to you guys who have been following Rockstar for all these weeks :) To all of you, it's a big THANK YOU! :)

My time is VERY limited, and I'm not sure how long I'll be running these for as circumstances are RAPIDLY changing but I am opening up some limited slots for a few guys.



The conditions are as follows:

Are you passionate about improving your life?
Are you open to hearing and trying new ideas?

In return, I'll give a portion of of my time and undivided, respectful attention to you and do my best to give help and value in any way I can. We can sit and chat over coffee, go in-field or get sushi-to-go...it's up to you.

We can work on whatever you like - opening, daygame, sexual escalation, comfort, general conversation skills, networking, confidence, seduction stage material, life goals and time management/personal motivation...whatever you like. Please PM me with what you'd like to work on, why, your availability and we'll be in touch.

Laters,

Keys

PS: Please note that I'll only be meeting guys I think I can help - if you have a sticking point that is better tackled by one of the other Rockstars, one of the professional dating coaches in London or by some sort of reading/audio material, I'll refer you to those with the greatest blessing.

PPS:I know Blackswan and Starlight are also meeting up for one-on-ones at the moment, and I highly recommend them - they're truly awesome guys and very skilled. We have been fortunate to have met/been trained by the best professional coaches guys in the city so if you'd like their help but you're not sure who to go to, I'd be happy to give specific recommmendations.

Keychain

Hey guys, so it's the last week of Rockstar...

Last night we had our evening with 5.0 and Vercetti and a special guest happened to drop by...Johnny Soporno! He met up with the crew and hung out all evening with us in Leicester Square, watching the crowds go by and sharing his philosophies on winning the game of life.

Before we get to that, the Rockstars congregated in central and chilled. Blackswan gave me some great advice about all sorts of life and business stuff. I respect his opinion and intellect a great deal, as readers of my previous posts will know, so it was great to have him turn that stuff in my direction once again. One of the special things about his advice is that it comes free of personal agenda (except the personal agenda to help). This is a rare thing.

Based on Blackswan's advice, I'm going to be doing some free one-on-ones in London to help others. Please check my next post for details.

Johnny Soporno. In a word: wow.

This guy has the kind of relaxed, at-ease manner that comes from having massive value, experience and self-validation...I've seen this in a very few people in my life - in fact I could count them on the fingers of one hand. As Johnny started unpacking his ideas, I started to understand what these people have in common.


- They are independents. People who don't draw their validation from leading or following, but who have an internal sense of validation. They make their own decisions, follow their own path and are validated (or not) by the success (or failure) of those actions. To win at the game of life, you must become an independent.

- They recognise that you can live by whatever rules you choose, living whatever configuration of life you want...as long as you are worth enough. As long as you can generate enough value to justify your existence, you can live however you want. This is part of the meaning of the term WORTHY Playboy.

- Men are motivated by approval, women by security. If, as a man, you can free yourself from the need to be approved of, you are on your way to being a true independent. This is one of the real keys and it was demonstrated in everything about Johnny. Watching him interacting with the Rockstars and our questions, with the staff, with passers by etc... was a real lesson in this. There is a centredness there that I homed in on.

- I asked how to free yourself for the need to be approved of without losing connection/care for the people around you. Johnny's answer was to do nice things for those who want your help, and because it makes you feel good about yourself. His motto: I live to enjoy the benefits of my best efforts.

There are crossovers between this and the David Deida stuff I've been listening to lately (great stuff btw) about Third Stage man etc... Living in your purpose, giving your gift. Awesome.





As I've said, I've met three guys in my life with the same vibe as Johnny, and each of them have profoundly influenced me. Time with a guy such as this is hugely valuable to anyone who has the eyes to see, the ears to listen and the openness to learn. To be honest, what he said was great, but the I got the most from the actual experience of just sitting there, across a table from him, enjoying the 'lived out' vibe.

If you get a chance, reader, check this guy out - his site is worthyplayboys.com, and he's got a truckload of free audio stuff there that you can download. Guys, do it, it's great.

So I'm VERY excited about this weekend! Im sharing a room with Prizefighter and all hell will be breaking loose at the big Rockstar finale in Essex! The other guys have already talked a bunch about it so I just want to say...I'm really really looking forward to it :)

Laters,

Keys

Day 46 - Keychain

Hey guys, hope you're all well :) Here's another Rockstar update from yours truly...

On Tuesday we had our weekly session with 5.0. As usual, it was a good time with lots to learn (always so much more to learn!).

5.0 had us watch as Optimistic and Blackswan ran a two-set in a pub. We analysed body language, energy levels and the general interaction from a distance. 5.0 gave some great advice about how to give good feedback/debriefs (something he learned from Sheriff).

Basically:

Ask them how it went? What worked, what didn't? (quite often they will answer their own sticking points!)
Stay positive. Give a positive sandwhich: good stuff, correction, good stuff.
Then send them back into set with something clear and specific to work on.

5.0 asked me to debrief Optimistic. I just asked him how he thought the set went and he laid it all out perfectly - lol, he's been in the same classroom as me for 8 weeks so there's very little I could say that he wouldn't already by aware of! Optimistic knew exactly what to improve etc...in his own (already great) game. Self-diagnosis.

We chatted further and 5.0 talked about his ideas on giving value as part of game. The idea is to give value to everyone you meet - girls and guys. Make everyone you meet feel great about themselves. Rather than running sets for 'practice', actually give value to them - aim so that if they saw you again, they'd run up, say hi and want to introduce their friends. It's not just fuck or walk, it's giving value.

It was inspiring stuff, especially given the timeliness of his words. 5.0 spoke of how AFCAdam had profoundly influenced him in the Entourage days. He threw around a couple of magic tricks as well, the sneaky fella ;)

Anyway, the last couple of days have seen me snowed under with work. The Rockstar crew are planning a bit of a weekend away to celebrate the end of the programme. I'm trying to get the cash together as it not only costs to go away, but I also have to reschedule some work (those of you who know what I do will know that I'm usually hired for quite short amounts of time at a very high cost. So to miss one 'job' is to lose a significant amount! Cashflow issues, lol!).

It's all good though :)

I must admit, this week has been quite tough-going. I've still been hitting the gym, eating and sleeping (my sleeping pattern has totally sorted itself out now thanks to London_Hunk's 'sort your life out' programme!). But I've been feeling tired, a little dazed and a bit numb to sarging. Sure, I've been approaching lots - it's habit now - but there's a weird numb state I feel I'm in.

Feels weird. I think Blackswan went through something similar a few weeks ago - mate, let's have a phonecall!



Despite that, still loving life, game and Rockstar - ace times!

Laters,

Keys
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Days 41/42

Hey guys! Keys here, just flying in with a double-day update. Things are quiet on the Rockstar front...



I had work commitments on Saturday so was unable to attend Lord Mega's last-minute talk (darn it!). And today (Sunday) we appear to have been given a day off...nice :)

I tell you what, I'm pretty exhausted! Tomorrow (Monday) is our official day off, so I'll be hitting the gym, attending a couple of work appointments and then hopefully chilling. Rockstar is TIRING! Lol, sometimes Keys needs some recharge time so this weekend of downtime has come at a very nice moment. Obviously I'm still working etc...and technically, I'm still doing approaches everyday but these feel very natural and normal now, not at all like work.

Personally, I've undergone some major life changes and had a number of deep beliefs reset. As Rockstar comes to an end (well, we've got two more weeks but you know what I mean!) I'm feeling pretty excited about what's going to happen next. The skills we've learned and the friends we've made are already changing my life dramatically.

I wonder how Project Rockstar will affect the life-trajectories of each of its six members...

Laters,

Keys

Day 41 - Keychain

Hey guys! Today we had a talk from London_Hunk on comfort game. I rocked up at his place only to see Virgo...we always bump into each other when we're out sarging (his recent 40-day daily-sarge challenge coincided with Rockstar so we were out a lot!). Little did I know that he's an NLP expert training for his Master's Practitioner qualification!



I've read a little on NLP in the past and have applied various of its mindsets and techniques to my life. So it was really fantastic to have Virgo give the full picture as well as relate it to Game. He basically condensed the whole 'Introduction to NLP' course into a single talk - amazing. Chatting to him afterwards, I am amazed by his motivation and energy for self-improvement. He works an insane job and has so many crazy projects/interests on the go that my mind boggles how he fits it in! Much respect.

At these Rockstar talks, often I learn just as much in other's individual chats with the speakers after their talk. I can usually be found hanging from the ceiling, Spiderman-style, trying to eavesdrop on these conversations!

Blackswan asked very insightful questions about how to apply NLP to learning and retention of knowledge etc... Awesome tips from Virgo about allowing/trusting that all experience is stored in the subconscious. One of Virgo's areas of expertise is in the whole area of practically applying this principle.

I asked a little about how Speed Seduction fits into NLP (and learned that is based on two main principles: 'an emotion felt from a memory is the same as an emotion felt from a present experience' and anchoring. In other words, Ross conjures up an emotion by leading the subject through a memory - perhaps a fun experience on a rollercoaster. This puts the subject in a positive emotional state, which the SS practitioner can then anchor to himself).

London_Hunk's talk was excellent. The others have summarised the full content very well, but I'd love to go into some of my personal highlights.

1) London_Hunk gave an excellent breakdown of 12 techniques to use in comfort. His ideas on cold reading were especially good!

2) His emphasis on genuinely caring about people. According to London_Hunk, yes you can use techniques to 'game' comfort, but it's a whole other level when you actually begin to care about people. You can ask the 'Interview' questions and have it come off great if you really care and are interested. I've been watching RSD's Foundations course (which is awesome btw) and a lot of this dovetails.

3) The way I see it, London_Hunk's main focus is on non-game issues - he's into building a great lifestyle with health, wealth and relationships all at peak. So when he talks about game, he always comes at it from a 'life application' angle. Yes, he knows all the standard game subject matter and includes it, but he regularly disappears down non-game tangents which end up being very useful indeed.

Great stuff.

Laters,

Keys

Day 40 - Keychain

Hey guys, I had work commitments today so wasn't able to join the guys sarging. I heard from them that a lot of fun was had and a lot of salsa was danced!

Talk from London_Hunk tomorrow, looking forward to it! I always walk away from these freshly inspired.

Been making a concerted effort to eat a lot more protein. Need to game more muscle to meet my target. I must meet my target. For every week we don't meet our target, London_Hunk lays waste to another densely populated major city...if we don't meet our target this week...here is the consequence:



Be afraid.

Laters,

Keys

Day 39 - Keychain

Hey guys, today we had physical assessment with London_Hunk and then...a conference call with Adam Lyons (AFCAdam).

Physical assessment went quite well - I lost body fat and gained some muscle. London_Hunk is still pushing for more significant muscle gain, and I'm doing my best to hit that. We chatted about my workout schedule etc... (I'm sticking exactly to his specs in the gym) and came to the conclusion that I need to eat more protein. Lots more. Bring on the chicken breasts...

After the assessment, we had our conference call with Adam Lyons (AFCAdam). Wow. I think he talked for over two hours...it was intense and amazing. It's up there with Sebastian Drake's talk as a life-changing experience - so many pieces of the puzzle clicked into place.

The other guys are so good at summarising this kind of information, but I'll have a go at mentioning some highlights:

1) Game's progression: Game 1.0 (routines etc...), Game 2.0 (natural approach), Game 3.0 (SCM game), Game 4.0 (celebrity game, the game Mystery is currently running, although not teaching).

2) To get to Game 4.0, you must work through the stages...routines evolve to natural game which evolves to SCM game...

3) Game 3.0, ogranising your own event/club based on your skills (ie, an all-girl poker club, Project Entourage, a girl's self defense class). Don't close your own girls, close other girls. People will begin to hear about your event/club...demand increases...you're heading towards 4.0.

4) Hating is the beginning of demand. It means people know about you and they are talking. Don't defend yourself, don't make a big deal, just invite them to be a part of what you do and they will gradually convert.

5) Traits of a natural: confidence, abundance lifestyle, the ability to sexual escalate.

6) Investment is key to attraction.

7) So much on social proof...weight in numbers, capture-recapture ideas...awesome.





One of the things that really impressed me about Adam was his generosity with his time. He constantly encouraged us to ask him questions and was willing to stay on the line for as long as it took to address all of our issues (and he really did stay for ages to help us out!).

He gave me great advice on how to 'game' a high-value clique, and emphasised the need for implementation:

'By the time you guys have finished Project Rockstar, you'll have had more training than anyone else in the world. Now you have to go out and use it.'

So inspiring. But also a challenge. Rockstar is a wonderful lab to learn great lessons and make new friends (many of whom I hope to keep for life)... but my mind is already forming plans of approach and 'people trails' to my career and life goals that I am going to pursue post-Rockstar.

Adam turned us on to his own site, with loads of free articles and information. I'm just checking it out now, you should too - this guy has got some seriously awesome information available here... Attraction Explained.

Guys, I'm gonna sign off - hope you're having an awesome day.

Laters,

Keys

Day 38 - Keychain

Hey guys. Last night we were out and about with 5.0. We all hung out and chilled for the evening - 5.0 was in set with loads of guys and one girl...and had her isolated in no time. Killer. Later in the night he gave some great advice to the Rockstars about integrating game as part of a general lifestyle of social behaviour.

I found the night a little slow going - big groups and not many of them. With all the Rockstars and a cadre of guests (it's not unusual for there to be 20+ PUAs running game when we go out), I found the sets dried up pretty soon. Was nice to catch up with the guys and have a laugh.



So, Prizefighter and I went through Leicester Square on the way home for some street game. No joy there, so we just pressed on to the tube.

Having said that, I did a bunch of sets in the bar that worked out great - some direct openers that went really well etc... Nothing spectacular to report tho, just standard game. Looking forward to AFCAdam's talk tomorrow!

Laters,

Keys

Day 37 - Keychain

Hey guys. Today is our day off so I hit the gym (chest and biceps), raided Tescos (kiwi's for 50p!) and caught up on all the paperwork I've had piling up. Nice.

Bring on week six.



Laters,

Keys

Day 36 - Keychain

Today was crazy. I got back from the barren Northlands (!?) just after 11am after a looong journey. Grabbed a quick shower and bounced down to London town for some afternoon tea!

We went to a beautiful members only club as the guests of one of London Soul's students. A captivating guy, he talked about his life as an international entrepeneur and businessman. He went on to give . Mr.M then advised him on aspects of game. I just sat there, drank my tea, and learned, learned, learned. It was crazy being around such a high-value group. All the other Rockstars have business experience and are very savvy in this area - I learned from every single one of them.

I think his is a prime example of someone who has literally EVERYTHING else together, but has a block when it comes to approaching girls (especially on the street). Luckily, working with a guy like Soul is the perfect remedy here. Soul is an expert at teaching daygame....be he can't build you an interesting, full life that girls want to be a part of. Only you can build yourself a truly amazing life. This dude has a great life...with some of Soul's great tuition and some practice, this guy will be absolutely sorted.

Went from here to be there for the closing moments of the bootcamp. 5.0 was talking about deep comfort, cold reading and future projection - I love his style, his routines are some of the most useable stuff I've found. His version of the cube makes it into almost all of my sets.



Sheriff gave a fantastic talk on relationships - really interesting stuff that I'm defo gonna try with my LTR! Dr.Yen gave an intense 20min fashion talk. The Rockstars were lucky enough to have this for two-three hours, so I know he had way more to give...I hope any of the students who were interested have booked one-on-ones with him, he's got waaay more to share!

Sasha gave a hilarious talk on Sasha-style daygame - he had the whole room in stitches as he gave out opener after opener and dropped serious insights. This guy's stuff is the foundation of my daygame, tubegame, traingame, streetgame etc...(with elements of Soul and Yen).

Was great to meet with the students again and hear their crazy experiences from the previous night. Everyone had grown, there were smiles all around and lots of hugs - I know exactly what they're feeling. It's that sense of, 'Fuck, this just completely opened up my world.' It's a strange, almost unsettling feeling when you come face to face with a possible reality that you had never considered. What a terrific bunch of guys.

Afterwards, we all ate together (thanks Sheriff) and the bootcamp parted company. What wild time. I loved it. Absolutely loved it. Sheriff is an ideal rolemodel for bootcamp teaching - he's chilled, laid back and really knows his shit. Plus, with all the heavyweight independent instructors that showed up to help out, this was a seriously high value bootcamp.

Can't wait to read the reviews and hear how the students are getting on! :)

Laters,

Keys

Day 35 - Keychain

Got back at 4am, grabbed some sleep and headed out to work. Was doing an overnighter up North somewhere, so most of the day was spent travelling.



Reeeally wanted to be with the Bootcamp guys - gutted I couldn't be there for day2.

But, from the reports I heard...it was pretty frickin awesome!!!

Laters,

Keys

Day 34 - Keychain

Hey guys, today was very interesting. Hung out at Sheriff's LoveSystems bootcamp in London. This is the first time I've ever attended a bootcamp and it was an honour to be asked to help out with the opening drills and then go in-field with the students and work.

Sheriff's presentation style (covering opening in the seminar) is very thorough and peaceful. His experience leads

Most of all, it was great to meet all the students. Twelve guys who had made a choice to get this area handled - they were all fantastic guys with some of the most teachable attitudes I've seen.

We all headed to On Anon after the seminar. I walked with Sasha and, along the way, chased down a beautiful Indian girl (#-close). When I found Sasha after that, he was in set with two stunning seventeen-year olds...wow, good choice Sasha! I came in to wing and immediately began physically pacing and leading my girl. Very fast sexual escalation on the street that ended in a makeout and #-close. Sasha's face was buried somewhere in his girl's breasts(really)! The whole interation was hugely fun for all four of us...what a wild time. This dude is seriously the Daygame-Deity!



It was a pleasure to work with the students in groups and individually. We went downstairs to demo and Dr.Yen brought a two set over, 'Hey, meet steve!' etc... I took my girl and Yen headed off with his. Again, started pacing and leading - very fast sexual escalation and makeout in five mins or so. A fun demo for the guys - my aim was just to show them what is possible and get some inspiration flowing.

Led my girl away to a corridor and continued making out etc...I get a tap on the shoulder, it's Vercetti. 'Okay, we need you back now.' Lol, demo-time over! Quick number close and then off to actually do some proper work!

The students were all great - approaching and gradually adding in steps: some kino, a high-five, a transition, statements of interest etc... By the end all the guys I spoke to were approaching confidently and delighted with their progress. Awesome!

Was also great to work with the other instructors - I spent quite a bit of time with Dr.Yen (who rocks) and was officially assisting Vercetti(guns!!!). Just hanging around with these guys and teaching with them is such a learning experience.

One of the coolest moments of the night came later. I was with Vercetti and three students and Blackswan arrived on the scene. Vercetti pointed to two girls dancing behind a table in front of some sofas (ie, quite tough to logistically get to!). 'Go demo.'

So Blackswan nods and calmly walks up to them. He opened with a ridiculous calm that just sucked the girls in. Within moments he had them dancing one in front and the other behind, like a PUA sandwich! He looked like the king of the club, the students went nuts and I was just filled with a sense of pride. That's a fucking Rockstar right there!

Afterwards, I got a ride home with Stickler (who also instructed on the bootcamp and, coincidentally, lives in my town!). We're about the same age, with a lot in common so it was great to chat about game, life and the directions our lives might take - a special guy.

Later,

Keys

Day 33- Keychain

Hey guys! So tonight was the Rockstar Gives Back Bootcamp...what a fun night! As I mentioned before, Starlight has done a great job of selecting the students. Everyone was enthusiastic, eager to learn and brave to try new things.

All of the Rockstars gave a talk on various different topics, with Vercetti keeping a watchful eye and making sure everything ran smoothly.

Starlight kicked off with an overview of some of the mindsets to have when learning pickup. As always, I really enjoy hearing his insights into the game, especially fresh from his wild trip to Stockholm! Excellent introduction and overview from Starlight.

I went on to talk on opening. It was a blast to see students laughing, taking notes and having fun - I covered loads of material with a real focus on practical application. I wanted to the students to have enough theory to have a strong, positive mindset as well as enough technical info to go out and run solid openers. Vercetti contributed key info on transitions.

Optimistic shared on more mindsets - including key inner game rules, great content. A number of students and instructors commented on his charisma and ability to hold the group. Optimistic has a disarming mix of super-solid core confidence and complete friendliness and openess to people. When I talk with him, he's always 'totally present' and engaged. This is powerful and it came across in his talk - we were all totally drawn in.

Prizefighter's talk was inspiring and down-to-earth. He talked on direct game and the importance of being congruent. He had the students laughing and into it - legend.

Paladin gave an impromptu talk on humour in set. He's insanely funny so this talk was a blast. In the beginning days of Rockstar, Paladin and I used to live near one another and we'd travel in on the train. Yes, he's very funny (very funny!) but his real strengths lie in his passion for teaching and giving value. His advice on game and game-mindset in those early days was hugely useful to me personally, and continues to be to this day. Last night, he was on form (and impromptu at that), lucky students!

I love Blackswan's thought process. I know I've mentioned it before, but this guy is very smart and has a remarkable ability to deliver complex concepts in a simple, concise fashion. I took notes. He focused on preparing the students' mindsets for going out - covering warming up and other topics. Then he dived into inner game ideas and brought out some fantastic value.

During the talks I saw my fellow Rockstars in a new light. I was genuinely proud to be associated with these guys. Every one shared mature, balanced advice on life - not from a 'know it all' perspective, but from the perspective of shared experience.

Amazing.

The students went down to while we had a conference call from the guys Pickup Podcast. Wow, they shared some great insight. It was a blast to talk to them!

I had a great time working with students. We hit On Anon and Leicester Square. Working one-on-one with the students, with Sheriff in the wings to give timely advice, was very satisfying. When the workshop was over, we went to eat in Soho, and then went to a club with Sasha (crashed at his place).

Highlights were taking a particular student through AA - from asking the time of passers by to making direct SOI's, teasing and thumbwarring a beautiful girl(all on crutches!)! Lol, awesome.



Wicked time, I hope we can create an opportunity to do this again.

Laters,

Keys

Day 32 - Keychain

Hey guys, so excited about the Rockstar Gives Back Bootcamp tonight. 6 Rockstars, 6 students and...Sheriff! Starlight has done the selecting, and he's a great reader of people so can't wait to see who he's brought along...

Last night we had a two hour talk with Sheriff about the basics of instructing. Full of funny anecdotes and really deep principles, I was scribbling in my notebook furiously! It's the little one-liners on mindset that he drops that are the really golden. What a cool guy. He's such an experienced and popular instructor, he's even got his own action figure complete with DHV six-shooters, a chamber for every attraction switch:



Game 2.0, baby.

Laters,

Keys

Day 31 - Keychain

Today was great - hit the gym hard. It really pumps the endorphins and gets things going. I came out of the gym totally wired and DTF, lol. So I made a call and met with a girl that afternoon for some fun. Aah, abundance ;)



We hung out at 5.0's place for the early part of the evening, chatting and hearing all the gory details of the Stockholm bootcamp. A really crazy time by the sounds of it! 5.0's place is really nice - spacious and clean. A great place to just chill and be relaxed (good cup of tea too!).

5.0 then went on to teach us about storytelling - he gave lots of examples and went really in-depth. Some key takeaways for me:

- A story should have three phases: beginning, middle and end. Without some kind of structure and an awareness of an 'end point', your anecdote can easily fizzle out.
- How to calibrate your story through repeated telling, hitting DHV's, creating an emotional connection and forming waypoints.
- Method acting principles applied to storytelling (awesome).

He graciously answered some of our sticking points - he gave me great advice about takeaways, what to do when you bump into a set that you left (on a high) earlier in the night, how to re-open, how to deal with interrupts to your story etc...

An experienced in-fielder, 5.0 has the ability to quickly identify and solve even the most specific sticking points.

He also gave some great tips on instructing (in prep for our Rockstar bootcamp this week). All great advice. 5.0 time is always super useful and solid, he has consistently given me loads of great advice that I've been able to use immediately in-field. Legend.

Laters,

Keys

Day 30 - Keychain

Hey guys. On our day off, went out in Guildford with Paladin and one of his friends. I opened a three set in Spoons, which hooked really well (number close) and generally got us chatty and warmed up for the nightclub to follow. Fun girls, one of them was quite attractive too (phd student...I'm a sucker for smart girls with a sense of humour). I really enjoy opening girls like that - fun, open, intelligent, humourous and loads of personality. We all have fun, it's social and everyones gets into a happy mood. Lol, good for emotional wellbeing :)

The guys went ahead while I finished up with the 3-set and I caught up. I started getting itchy feet. I hate walking into a club to sarge, and then delaying. I'm so used to snapping and going straight into set etc...and getting the fun started. Anyway, soon enough everyone started opening and lots of fun was had.

Paladin was experimenting with a very low-energy form of game based around a sexual frame. I came in to wing him on a two/three set (can't quite remember) and forgot about his low energy experiment. A good wing should usually come in at lower or equal level to the main guy - I came in moderate but it was still too much. I keyed it down and tried to redirect the set (quite well I thought) but alas, it was not to be. It was unintentional of course, such is the peril of the newbie. I'm usually very good at calibrating my energy levels to support my main guy, and I'm so used to winging Paladin in his super-high-energy game that he so rocks at. But I slipped up a little and forgot his experiment, sorry dude!


No big deal, Paladin's game is tight anyway so he just bounced off and opened more girls. There were so many beautiful girls (literally sooo many) that I tried a bunch of different types of game.



I aimed for some good, solid game as per Sebastian's advice. It's not playing it safe, per se, it's more playing it confidently and competently. Very satisfying, good practice, consistent results.

I also ran some really fast kino escalation, juxtaposing super heavy attraction with deep, deep comfort, and then takeaways, and then escalations etc...It really fries circuits. Handjob in a photo-booth type stuff. High variance game like Dr.Yen does - it's so much fun to do! Meeting someone like Dr.Yen and seeing this kind of fast, fast escalation is so educational. And it works, it's teachable.

It's nice to try on different styles and experiment with the results. I used to be a little intimidated by clubs (especially by hot girls in clubs). The guys all looked way cooler and more on it, the girls looked unattainable and mysterious...but now, I can open a four set of really attractive girls and actually hook. Creating a fun vibe, isolating, comfort etc... (lol, not nec in order!) all the pieces are starting to fall together naturally. So, experimentation becomes possible. Once you have basic, strong, consistent template you can start changing bits and pieces to test out effects. Lots of fun :)

So yeh, we had fun. I headed to another bar with some different friends afterwards and mainly chilled. Talked to a bunch of girls by accident and semi-sarged. Mostly enjoying a catch-up with friends. Number closed etc... Actually got opened a few times in both venues, which is always nice. I think it's a combination of social proof of other sets, good subcommunications and a unique look. That's shit anyone can get together, I love how this is so teachable. Lol, it's certainely not my face!!!!

Anyway, this is a fairly boring field report really...just a regular sarge, no major fireworks. Was really nice to integrate some of Sebastian's stuff into my game too - mainly the honest and open sexuality he has, and the idea that you can exude a sexual vibe from knowing you're a good lover. When I was talking with a girl, I truly felt that if we ended up having sex, we'd have a really awesome time together. That's a powerful thought...tapping into my previous sexual experience to bring a sexual confidence and presence to the interaction. Deep stuff...I need to review that talk again and soak in some more.

Soo....that's all for now folks. Hope you're enjoying :)

Laters,

Keys

Day 29 - Keychain

What a great summary by Optimistic of Sebastian Drake's talk! I really can't top that in terms of an excellent breakdown, so let me just relate a few personal 'highlights' as they struck me.

First, Blackswan's book reviews of 'Blink' and 'Influence' were excellent. Blackswan is very intelligent and has a gift for absorbing large chunks of information and presenting it back. He spoke clearly, concisely and with a great presentation style - he has a great method of communicating complex ideas in a simple, understandable way. I learned a lot. Whichever of the mini-Rockstars gets to spend one-on-one time with Blackswan this week will be in excellent hands (I might try to overhear some of his tips and steal them, lol!).

Sebastian's talk was excellent. Some LSS guys joined us. He took questions (mine was about how to tell captivating stories) and gave truly masterful answers. He even managed to answer some very odd questions and transition into excellent stuff...very impressed and honoured to hear him.

Afterwards, I just thanked him. I didn't really know what to say - everyone was chatting and he was talking with everyone individually or in groups of two etc... I wanted to make a personal connection (because I really resonated with his attitude) but felt my efforts would be lost in the background noise.

So I was sticky - just expressed my genuine thanks, mentioned something about a shared hobby and then left. This way, if we meet again, I can be sticky again etc...I haven't lost value, I've just been visible. In a situation like that, after a talk, when he's swamped with people, I can only see three ways to be anything more than sticky without coming across as low value:

- Ask an insightful question or demonstrate/uncover some sort of personal connection in the talk itself (or immediately afterwards).
- Be introduced by a high-value person.
- Offer some sort of immediate value. (this is risky without first establishing a solid respect plarform)

I love getting to know awesome people, and Sebastian seemed really awesome. As it was, I heard an inspiring talk and got a bit sticky. Lol, not bad for a Sunday evening!



Anyway, a couple of points that really hit home with me:

1) Sebastian likened pickup to sports. A good football team playing a bad team will play good, solid game and just win by being better. No need for risky strategies or flashy moves - just play solid game and outclass the competition.

However, a bad team playing against a good team will pull out all the risky maneouvers. They've got nothing to lose anyway - so they'll try solo runs, crazy tricks and stuff that MIGHT work, because they may as well.

Similarly with game, a lot of high-energy, crazy-bunny-rabbit game is great for beginners. They have nothing to lose...they may as well run up to a girl and tell her she's fucking gorgeous and they want to fuck her in the bathroom. What the hell, it'll work some of the time, which is way better than the none-of-the-time they were getting before.

But, as you get better, and you know that your game is tight, there is no need for this kind of behaviour. Why introduce a crazy element that runs the risk of blowing the girl out? Sure, X-tactic may well create a big attraction spike...but it may also blow you out...if your game is good, and you want the girl, you know that you can just play it solidly and get her. Why fuck around?

Obviously, this is advanced stuff - when you're learning, it's best to try everything to properly set your social calibration, understand what is possible etc...push the boat out. But the danger is that you become reliant on these flash-game pieces. Your game grows around these fancy set pieces, and it can stunt your growth long term. You end up being so heavily-specialised that other areas of your game lie underdeveloped.

It is like a guitar teacher who does one thing very well (ie, can play Smoke on the Water really great) but who doesn't know the first thing about anything else to do with music. Sure, he sounds great at parties when he plays his one song...but he doesn't really know what it takes to become a great guitarist (or even a competent one!). So, he puts a big ad' in the paper: 'Learn Smoke on the Water in A Day!!' and many students sign up. However, because he has lack of depth and 'big picture' perspective, his teaching methods harm his students. Sure, by the end of the day everyone can play Smoke on the Water, but they have picked up a hundred-and-one awful habits that will take weeks of mature instruction to undo.

Nobody is perfect, we all have blindspots and weakspots. The way to do it is to be very open an honest about what you can and can't do. That way, students have a sense of perspective about your role as teacher - they know that you are the not the one and only 'go to' guy about whatever skill you are teaching. You have one, two, three or four facets down great...but you haven't got it all. Nobody does. But we can aim for a good, rounded game. That was an interesting life perspective that Drake brought, and something I've heard Mystery talk about: aim for good, solid game.

This is a great insight because we have so many different and excellent styles of game being shown to us...i took this as a reminder to seek after developing the kind of game that is right for me. Keychain-game. This is something ALL the instructors tirelessly encourage, but it's sometimes easy for a newbie like me to forget it.

2) Another great perspective that hit home for me was: gradual change is sustained change. He specifically said that the way to see sustained health and fitness improvements is NOT to snap change, but to gradually change. Introduce good habits and exclude bad ones gradually.

I had begun something similar before Rockstar. Working on the principle that it takes 30-days to build a habit (thanks Eben Pagan!) I put together a proper stretching/yoga routine that took about a half hour to do. After thirty days, I started introducing some push-ups and situps etc...the idea was to build a healthy lifestyle that I could sustain, adding new elements piece by piece.

Some of the Rockstars went from normal foods straight onto an exclusive regime of shakes, pills, powders and snackbars. I admire their dedication! I knew this wouldn't be a sustainable lifestyle for me, so I didn't do it (although I was a bit worried I met get kicked off the programme!). Instead, I just bought green drinks (powdered vegetables which are awesome!) and some protein shakes to drink after working out. London Hunk's advice on these was spot on! No other supplements tho.

I know I keep harping on about this in my posts, but my fitness goals are not to gain a set amount of weight a week etc...rather, I aim to add/improve my health regime on a continuing, sustainable basis. I'm a healthy guy, I'm not in any immediate health danger that would require me to snap-change my diet. I'm in no rush to look like Brad Pitt or Vin Diesel. I may well get there eventually, but I'm not interested in cramming it all into 8 weeks...I'll just get better and better and better until I'm where I want to be. I don't understand, why the big rush? I know this approach isn't flashy, but (as Drake might say) I feel it's good, solid 'life game'.

It is a fair point that some people prefer to work on the complete, snap-change principal. All power to them. I just know (from having learned other skills to a high level) that I don't work that way on a long-term basis.

So yeh, amaaaazing insights from Sebastian. Really put my mind at ease. Thanks man.

Other interesting factoids...he mentioned he participated in a sport that I used to compete at national level for (was on UK team etc...). He also recommended a great book on business networking called 'Never Eat Alone' by Keith Ferrazzi. I actually quoted quite a bit from that book in my recent dissertation! One of my faves! Lol, funny coincidences. As you can see, there were a number of these little connections that really gave the talk extra punch and relevance to me. Awesome!

Until next time guys :)

Laters,

Keys

Day 28b - Keychain

Hey guys! So I didn't end up going to the houseparty...let's just say it turned out I had a much better option at home. You know those times where sex just last hours and hours and it's a GOOD thing. I think the trick is to start early in the evening...so when things reach a fever pitch it's not too late. If I start too late sometimes I get tired/bored/schedule-conscious and just wanna call it a day, lol ;) Anyway, enough about all this business.

So yeh, I'm off for a shower and then Tesco. Our theory session tonight is with Sebastian Drake...really excited :)



Rockstar is awesome - so jealous of Starlight rockin it up in Stockholm, what an awesome time!!! Great FR's from the other guys too - I might text Blackswan and see if he'll wear his fetish-club outfit to Sebastian's talk tonight...haha!

Laters,

Keys

Day 28 - Keychain

Hey guys, meeting up with my ltr in about forty mins so thought I'd post super quick for y'all :)

Yen and Mr.M invited the Rockstars to a fetish party at Torture Garden...so fucking tempted to go! But the only thing I have that is even vaguely fetish is some wee socks with skulls on em...so maybe not, lol ;)

Today has been nice and super chilled...no daygame with Sasha coz he's doing a bootcamp, and loads of the regular gang are away in Stockholm. So it's break time at Rockstar Central.




We're at the halfway point now and all I can say is...wow. Can't wait (or imagine!) what the next four weeks are going to hold for everyone...

Until then,

Keys

Day 27 - Keychain

Hey guys. Today we bopped down to London Hunk's place to hear a finance talk from Blower (which was mainly focused on how people are thinking about investing in the property market in the current economic climate). Then London Hunk chipped in some thoughts about business, and then went on to discuss some inner game issues.

Blower's advice was really interesting. Property investing is totally outside my RAS but it was interesting to hear a very successful guy talking about his thoughts and attitudes towards money. I'm sure some of the other guys will cover the theory way better than me, they're way more switched on to this stuff and all the technical terms.

Mr.M asked Blower to describe some of the shared traits and characteristics of the highly financially successful people that Blower has met. To be honest, the list was pretty repulsive...to my ears, it sounded very selfish and unfulfilling. I don't mean to judge, of course, but the discussion really didn't resonate with me at all.

As a freelancer, I have thought a lot about finance and money and I have very specific goals in this area. They range from the basic/immediate (covering rent, affording good food, saving a good amount etc...and generally living my ideal lifestyle) to the more long term (one of my main long term goals is to have enough money to take care of my parents in their retirement and give them a comfortable life with travel opportunities). These things motivate me. I am a simple man financially, I don't crave gadgets and DVD's and expensive clothes. I like to live simply and healthily.

I was struck by how different some peoples' goals are. Some people live for the thrill and challenge of investing in property, risking money and winning big. To me, this sounds like hell. Lol, it's so funny how different we all are. Anyway, as I say, I am not judging...I just want different things. In five years, I'll probably be reading this and laughing, because my RAS may well have shifted more towards these things.

I was interested in what reasons these financial heavyweights give for their pursuit of money - I was interested in what their thoughts are on why they do what they do. I was hoping that by understanding their motivations, I'd be able to relate better...but things got a bit defensive so I shut up! Lol, I must have come across a little (unintentionally) judgemental.

London_Hunk's talk was great as always. I've said it lots before, but I really dig his energy and passion. He talked about 'unspoken rules' and basic mindsets of business (ie, do your market research VERY thoroughly or you'll DIE!!!...even if your business is successful by chance, London_Hunk will still come round and make you do 20 SQUAT-THRUSTS!!!). He then went on to reinforce his previous thoughts about the mindset of a natural - as always, this was really insightful and interesting. His sheer passion and congruence are really great to be around.

Anyway, after all that business we went out with Dr.Yen, Mr.M, Prizefighter and Optimistic. Good times were had by all. I was there for just under an hour, but opened a couple of sets (they last way longer nowadays, gone are the days of getting blown out of every set in under two minutes), number closed (thanks to some REALLY amazing jump-on-the-grenade style winging from Optimistic! Lol, after we came out of the set, he was white as a sheet and just said 'She was... a... REALLY horribly person!' hahaha, she was truly an awful human being! Lol, but he winged like a motherfucker and gave me the chance to isolate my girl and number close etc...Such a tough set at the beginning but I ploughed through and, with Optimistic's help, they cracked open beautifully. Seriously props to such excellent winging, legend!).



Chatted to a nice girl on the train home, very interesting character. She was a lot older than me though, and not really my type so didn't ask for the number. My number closing on trains is very consistent, so I didn't feel the need to get it just for the practice. Fun converstation though, which is always worth having and something I'm always up for practicing.

Anyway, I'm gonna leave it at that guys. I hope you've got lots and lots of sarging and day2's planned this weekend :) Have fun!!! Once again...any feedback is greatly appreciated. I want to make this helpful and interesting for you, so please do let me know if there's something you'd rather I focused more/less on. Wicked!

All the best,

Keys

Day 26 - Keychain

Hey guys! So today was our leaver's party for University...so I SCM'd it and went out. Intended to meet up with Paladin but alas it never materialised...

So, it was fun(ish) but was mainly about having my face seen. It's the last big party so it's good to remind everyone in that part of my network that I'm alive. As Keith Ferrazzi says, 'Invisibility is a fate far worse than failure.' Got bored pretty quickly though, bounced around a bunch of venues with some friends to say hi to everyone and then went home...yawn. I think I need to catch up on some sleep - if it's not essays it's these frickin' day2's! Lol :)



So anyway, I never really post much of my own thoughts here so I thought I'd offer a little to do with what I'm thinking about at the moment. It's stream of consciousness so do please forgive if this isn't up to the usual forum standards.

A part of the theory that I am pondering is the idea of perceived value. Mr.M talked about this in SCM.

Basically, if you push yourself to grow and develop in all areas, your independent value will naturally increase. If those around you don't improve and grow, you end up moving past them. In other words, assuming their value stays the same and your value increases, what you once perceived as high-value (their friendship)...slowly starts to look less and less valuable.

For example (this is hypothetical), if I'm doing acting in a television commercial about Diet Coke, I'll be there every day, on time, ready to go go go! It's my big break, the money's great, I'm excited! But...then I get a call offering me the starring role in the new Batman movie! Wow! Suddenly, that DietCoke commercial doesn't seem as valuable (and isnt) to me as it did before. I've moved up. Its intrinsic value has actually stayed the same, it's just that I perceive it to be lower from my 'higher' perspective.

Anyway...combine this with the idea of RAS (which also shifts/refocuses as you grow and develop), and you can see how certain friendships and aquaintances may peter out over time...it may be time to shift them into the a social parking lot, as Mr.M says. (in other words, maintain the relationship but at a lower level on intensity than before)

A famous man once said that you are the sum of the few people that you spend the most time with. One of the MANY attitude shifts I've been having during Rockstar is that I want my top five, my inner circle, my closest associates, to be people whom I respect and admire and who are truly awesome people.

Look at what has happened in my social life since surrounding myself with all these amazing instructors and the Rockstars...I've been growing and learning so much! I'm getting sily attraction from girls and getting way more lays than before (with MUCH hotter girls). I was getting laid before, I had a a couple fb's and an LTR but...now things are waaay better. I have choice, abundance. And I'm still such a noob. Now that's just one area of my life.

What if I wanted to improve my financial situation, a skill, my fitness or any knowledge base? I could 'recruit' a high value person from this area into my social circle and let his/her influence 'fastrack' my development.

How do I attract this high value specialist? Social. Circle. Mastery. The crazy jedi stuff that Mr.M is unpacking every Sunday in our theory sessions. It's about having real value in your own life so you can offer it to others, it's about being socially calibrated and aware, about eliciting respect through your (sub)communications and behaviour, it's about playing the social game as a master.

So, my thought for today: Who's in your top 5? Who's in your inner circle? They influence you on a profound level...make sure you chose them wisely.

All the best,

Keys