Day 26 - Keychain

Hey guys! So today was our leaver's party for University...so I SCM'd it and went out. Intended to meet up with Paladin but alas it never materialised...

So, it was fun(ish) but was mainly about having my face seen. It's the last big party so it's good to remind everyone in that part of my network that I'm alive. As Keith Ferrazzi says, 'Invisibility is a fate far worse than failure.' Got bored pretty quickly though, bounced around a bunch of venues with some friends to say hi to everyone and then went home...yawn. I think I need to catch up on some sleep - if it's not essays it's these frickin' day2's! Lol :)



So anyway, I never really post much of my own thoughts here so I thought I'd offer a little to do with what I'm thinking about at the moment. It's stream of consciousness so do please forgive if this isn't up to the usual forum standards.

A part of the theory that I am pondering is the idea of perceived value. Mr.M talked about this in SCM.

Basically, if you push yourself to grow and develop in all areas, your independent value will naturally increase. If those around you don't improve and grow, you end up moving past them. In other words, assuming their value stays the same and your value increases, what you once perceived as high-value (their friendship)...slowly starts to look less and less valuable.

For example (this is hypothetical), if I'm doing acting in a television commercial about Diet Coke, I'll be there every day, on time, ready to go go go! It's my big break, the money's great, I'm excited! But...then I get a call offering me the starring role in the new Batman movie! Wow! Suddenly, that DietCoke commercial doesn't seem as valuable (and isnt) to me as it did before. I've moved up. Its intrinsic value has actually stayed the same, it's just that I perceive it to be lower from my 'higher' perspective.

Anyway...combine this with the idea of RAS (which also shifts/refocuses as you grow and develop), and you can see how certain friendships and aquaintances may peter out over time...it may be time to shift them into the a social parking lot, as Mr.M says. (in other words, maintain the relationship but at a lower level on intensity than before)

A famous man once said that you are the sum of the few people that you spend the most time with. One of the MANY attitude shifts I've been having during Rockstar is that I want my top five, my inner circle, my closest associates, to be people whom I respect and admire and who are truly awesome people.

Look at what has happened in my social life since surrounding myself with all these amazing instructors and the Rockstars...I've been growing and learning so much! I'm getting sily attraction from girls and getting way more lays than before (with MUCH hotter girls). I was getting laid before, I had a a couple fb's and an LTR but...now things are waaay better. I have choice, abundance. And I'm still such a noob. Now that's just one area of my life.

What if I wanted to improve my financial situation, a skill, my fitness or any knowledge base? I could 'recruit' a high value person from this area into my social circle and let his/her influence 'fastrack' my development.

How do I attract this high value specialist? Social. Circle. Mastery. The crazy jedi stuff that Mr.M is unpacking every Sunday in our theory sessions. It's about having real value in your own life so you can offer it to others, it's about being socially calibrated and aware, about eliciting respect through your (sub)communications and behaviour, it's about playing the social game as a master.

So, my thought for today: Who's in your top 5? Who's in your inner circle? They influence you on a profound level...make sure you chose them wisely.

All the best,

Keys