Real Man Conference 08, Amsterdam

Hey guys,

I just got back from speaking with LondonSoul at the Real Man Conference in Amsterdam...wow, what a fantastic time! The speakers were awesome, but the real treat was meeting so many passionate conference attendees and touching base with the speakers again. I personally met men from Holland, Moscow, London, Australia, USA, Canada, Germany, France and loads of other places whose dedication to being great people was so inspiring to me...wow :)


In particular the talks given by Zan, Johnny Soporno, LondonSoul, Sebastian Drake (hero), AFCAdam and Sasha were personally very impactful. The whole conference was filmed to a very high quality, so let's hope the DVD's become available soon - guys, it's well worth checking these out if you get a chance, I know I will be!



On the first night, I went out to meet London Soul at the Escape Nightclub in central Amsterdam. But...the Vodafone Netherlands network proved too much for my phone and it died just before I got to the venue. I headed on in and had a wander round, looking for Soul...couldn't find him (we had arranged that I would call him and we'd meet outside, but with no battery, this wasn't going to happen).

I had a choice...leave or stay. I was definatly staying! That led me to another choice...chode around waiting for Soul or get down to partying and meeting people. Obviously I chose the latter! ;) Solo sarge!

Now usually, when I go into a club by myself, I immediately get into set...but I'd done some wandering around, couldn't find my friend and was feeling a little out of sorts. I headed to the bathroom to wash my face and just reset my mood a little, resolving to approach the first group I saw as soon as I got out.

I got chatting to a guy as we were both leaving the bathroom, very quickly found what Sebastian Drake calls a click topic (something we both have in common and are passionate about) and got into conversation with him and his friend. The two girls they were with came and joined us. After a while chatting and holding court, the first girl was giving massive kino IOI's and exclaiming 'I'm so glad you joined us!' etc... We had a great time, they were really fun interesting people, were buying me drinks and generally being cool - hurray!



KEYCHAIN'S TIP
When I walk into a club by myself, it can feel veeery intimidating. Maybe you guys have experienced that feeling - everyone seems to be in their groups, parting and having fun. They just seem to belong there and you feel like you stick out like a sore thumb.

And if you walk around looking for your friends and can't find them, it can feel even worse - really awkward and out of place! This is fine - I accept that I'm feeling like this, go wash my face in the bathroom and just re-enter the club - and i do this...

If you want an easy way to get some social proof together and get into a talkative state - approach some easy sets and just be fun and friendly. Approach the first set you see when you enter the club - chat to guys, chat to the fun girl groups (hen parties etc...), chat to mixed sets - don't worry about building attraction and running all that 'game' you've got in your head, just be fun and friendly, chat about normal stuff (what are you doing in x-city, what do you do, how do you guys know each other, tell some funny stories etc...).

Build social proof with the group and then approach from that base, merging new sets back into this. When you've got some good vibes happening with the first group, go meet another one and repeat. Then merge the two sets, introducing set 2 to set 1, 'You guys are fun, come meet my friends'. You're starting to get a party happening now...you're being a connector, leading, building social proof.

From here you can approach further sets or choose a girl from the mini-party you've just created and do your thing there. This is an awesome way to create a fun party vibe and establish your value in the club, especially when you're sarging solo.



So, back to the story - we bounced from the club to the Red Light District. Stopped by their apartment on the way to drop off the second girl, who was feeling ill etc... Then wandered into the Red Light District. Was walking arm in arm with my girl and we let the guys walk ahead. Built some sexual tension (I love sexual tension - I love just letting it cook and get hotter and hotter, it's such a great escalation tool. I should really write about my personal ideas about this soon!). I locked in against a wall, pulled her in, kissed. We made out for a while - there were no logistics for the lay (my hostel room was shared with 4 dutch guys and her one-room holiday flat had a sick girl in it, not to mention the two guys!). We went and found the guys and wandered some more. We exchanged numbers and are now in contact via...facebook (oh yeh, lol!).

So yeh, a fun night with fun people and some cool lessons there in solo sarging and social proofing.

On the last night, Johnny gave us all a tour of the Red Light District...Soporno style! Amsterdam is a beautiful city. Yes, cycle lanes look like pavements, the cars drive on the wrong side of the road and the toilet attendants in nightclubs practically mug you for 50cents but...the food is wonderful, the canals are beautiful, the night life is funfun and the girls are gorgeous! Guys, go, you'll love it :)

Laters,

Keys